Make a custom plugin for your site, put this code in it.
add_filter('oembed_dataparse','oembed_youtube_add_wrapper',10,3);
function oembed_youtube_add_wrapper($return, $data, $url) {
if ($data->provider_name == 'YouTube') {
return "<div class='whatever'>{$return}</div>";
} else {
return $return;
}
}
Note: The filter runs when the data is gathered from the oembed provider. So, itif you already embedded the post, and the embed data is cached, this won't modify it.