think i have found it if that can be any help. did not finished it .. but still gonna continu that tomorrow, time to sleep.
here what was my orginal call
tb_show('', 'media-upload.php?post_id=1&type=image&TB_iframe=true');
that from a button click... jquery. now, i have realize that the wordpress function in media.php (includes\media.php) look if the post id exists. Before, it was working just find with "post_id=1". but now on we HAVE to pass the post id... so my call gonna look like
tb_show('', 'media-upload.php?post_id= < ? php echo Xxxxx ?> &type=image&TB_iframe=true');
(whitout the blank space in aronud the '?')
where xxxxx is replace by my post id... now im new to php so here i am.. going to sleep but hey. it works well when i hardcode it myself with the good post id.
other solution possible:
this is the line that make the button appear:
$form_fields['buttons'] = array( 'tr' => "\t\t$send $thumbnail $delete\n" );
look around it in \includes\media.php... maybe it easyer than it appear for a newbe in php like me!
peaaaace out